Masturbating is an activity that comes with a slew of mental and physical health benefits. It can relieve stress, help you to get a good night’s rest, boost your mood, and help you to understand and get to know your own body. Basically, masturbation is a right that we all deserve.

But if you’re currently living with other people, you may find it a little tricky to get yourself off. Perhaps you don’t have a lot of privacy, or maybe you just don’t want those who live with you to know what you’re getting up to. Fear not, there are ways to fix these dilemmas!


Whether you live with friends, other adults, or family members, setting healthy boundaries is important. This doesn’t just have to correlate to masturbation though. It should be your decision as to who enters your private space and when. 

And when your housemates do want to pay you visit, asking them to either knock beforehand or to know that, when your door is closed, you don’t want to be disturbed, is totally acceptable.

If you’ve got housemates who don’t respect your boundaries, enforcing them is key. And while they adjust, you can try doing mundane activities when they’re prone to barging in, just until they start adhering to your privacy. 

Alternatively, get a lock! If the people in your home won’t respect your boundaries, a locked door will do the trick (although there’s probably a much bigger discussion that needs to be had about respecting boundaries if that’s the case, though).

Choose Your Poison Wisely

If it’s noise you’re concerned about, there are a few ways you can keep volume to a minimum.

For one, if you’re watching or listening to some kind of erotic content, you could wear headphone. The problem with this however is that you may not hear people around you, or if you have housemates knocking on the door. Deciding to use headphones is something you can judge depending on your living situation.

If headphones are a no-go, you can try reading erotica or looking at images, or even videos with the sound off, if that floats your boat.

Lastly, if you’re using a sex toy, you could do your research on ones that are most discrete. 

The Kandy Mini Wand Massager, for example, is durable, waterproof, multi-functioning, compact, lightweight, and whisper quiet.

If you do need to mask the noise of vibrations and rumbles however, you could play some music, have the TV on, or, surround the toy with things like pillows or blankets to make the noise quieter.

Alternatively, you could use your hands and fingers to enjoy an orgasm!

Waterproof It

If you’re apprehensive about masturbating in your bedroom using a sex toy, a waterproof toy can be the perfect way to have a bit of ‘me’ time. Take your fave toy into the bathroom and have some fun in the shower or in the bathtub. 

If you’re nervous that the sounds won’t be drowned out, you could test the toy by turning it on and going outside of the bathroom for a second to see if you hear any noises.


This one is fairly easy, and should work a charm. Tell your housemates that you’ve taken up meditating, and that you’d like a certain amount of uninterrupted privacy in your bedroom. 

You could even put a sign up outside your door to tell your housemates that meditation is in progress. 

Go Powerful

If you’re not able to enjoy lots of private time, choose a powerful sex toy that’s less so about sensual build ups but more so about getting you off quickly and efficiently.

Then, when you find yourself home alone, take the time to explore and enjoy your body. This is just as important when it comes to sexual health.

Go Small

Just like a quieter sex toy would be ideal for those who want to masturbate in peace, getting one that’s small yet powerful will also makes it easier to enjoy your climax in privacy. 

The Egg Lover sex toy, for example, is discrete and able to stimulate the g-spot and the clitoris.

A small sex toy can easily be hidden in a drawer or in a box in your cupboard. You could also consider placing it inside your rolled up socks if you do your own laundry, or in a travelling suitcase that’s in a far-reaching spot in the closet.

If all else fails, or if you believe that there’s nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to masturbation (there isn’t)... 

Go For It

The above tips are for those who would prefer to keep their intimate details to themselves. But if you’re all about embracing your sexuality, and are open to talking about sex with your housemates, then you won’t need any gimmicks or plans when it comes to masturbating. Simply close your door and enjoy time with yourself! 

At the end of the day, everyone’s home has different vibes, so get yourself off by choosing what’s best for you while being respectful of your housemates. Bottom line? Masturbation is healthy, and we totally recommend it!